STOP FAKE PROMISES FOR MARRIAGE

INTERDEPENDENCE, OR BEING ABLE TO DEPEND ON EACH OTHER , IS PART OF WHAT MAKES A MARRIAGE SPECIAL AND SUCCESSFUL . DEPENDABILITY IS ONE OF THE TOP QUALITIES PEOPLE LOOK FOR IN A SPOUSE , AND IT SHOULD BE . IF ONE OR BOTH OF YOU CAN'T DEPEND ON EACH OTHER , THE VIABILITY OF YOUR MARRIAGE IS THREATENED .

WHEN YOU MAKE A PROMISE TO YOUR SPOUSE OR SAY YOU'LL DO SOMETHING FOR YOUR SPOUSE OR FAMILY AND THEN YOU DON'T KEEP YOUR WORD , YOU'RE LETTING YOUR SPOUSE DOWN AND HURTING YOUR MARRIAGE . KEEPING YOUR WORD AND FOLLOWING THROUGH ON YOUR PROMISES HELPS TO REINFORSE THE TRUST THAT YOUR SPOUSE HAS IN YOU.

WHAT DOES THIS TOPIC WANTS TO TELL US ?

STOP FAKE PROMISES FOR MARRIAGE WANTS TO TELL US THAT IN OUR SOCIETY THERE ARE MANY CASES IN WHICH THE WOMEN OR SOMETIMES EVEN MEN ARE BETRAYED BY THEIR PARTNERS I.E THEY CHEAT ON THERE PARTNER AFTER MARRIAGE .

CAUSES

SO WHY DO PEOPLE BREAK THEIR PROMISES AND NOT KEEP THEIR WORD ? THERE IS A MULTITUDE OF POTENTIAL REASONS BEHIND THIS AND IT DIFFERS FOR EVERY INDIVIDUAL . 

SOME PEOPLE MINIMIZE THEIR NEED FOR OTHERS , WHICH MAY BE A RESULT OF EARLY CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES WHERE THERE WAS NOT A RELIABLE CARETAKER  AVAILABLE . PEOPLE WHO EXPERIENCED THIS TEND TO LEARN TO TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES  , AVOIDING REACHING OUT TO OTHERS FOR HELP BECAUSE THEY MAY  NOT KNOW HOW TO DEPEND ON SOMEONE ELSE.

ANOTHER REASON INTERDEPENDENCY MAY BE DIFFICULT FOR SOME PEOPLE IS BECAUSE THEY WERE RAISED IN A HOUSEHOLD FILLED WITH CHAOS. THERE WAS NO CONSISTENCY AND A POOR(OR NO) MODEL OF A MATURE MARRIAGE WAS ALL THAT WAS AVAILABLE , SO THEY MAY NOT FULLY UNDERSTAND THE NUANCES OF WHAT IT MEANS TO BE ABLE TO COUNT ON EACH OTHER.

LET'S TAKE AN EXAMPLE OF The famous Mafia Queen Gangubai Kathiwadi was born in a renowned family of Kathiawad Gujarat. Her real name was Ganga Harjivandas. From a very young age, she dreamed of becoming a Bollywood actor and wanted to come to Mumbai to follow her dreams. 

During her college, when she was 16 years old she fell in love with Ramnik Lal, who was an accountant of her father. Ganga ran away with him from Kathiawad and came to Mumbai to settle down and start a new life together.

It is said that Ganga and Ramnik Lal got married after they left their home and started to live in Mumbai. But later Ramnik deceived her and sold to a brothel Rs. 500. This betrayal destroyed Ganga but her new life as Gangubai started. She became a prostitute and started living in the red-light area of Mumbai.